Every once in a while, something happens that knocks the breath out of you. I don't mean something as...drastic.. as a death but just something that makes you stop and re-evaluate your life. Though you may be hurt or just surprised at the way things are going, this does not have to be a bad thing.
A shock to the system can give you the nudge you need to gain perspective. If you give yourself time, you can sit back and look through the pain and see clearly those little things that you may have not seen or even known were there while you were going about your life. Once you identify them, you can begin to recover and make decisions that will let you make your life better.
I feel that as we get "comfortable" we become complacent. I know I do. I have found myself becoming too comfortable in my marriage, in my friendships and in my work life. When that happens, I tend to forget to appreciate the people that I love. It's not that I don't know how blessed that I am, it's that I forget to let them know that I know how lucky I am to have them in my life- and everyone needs a little appreciation now and then. Don't you hate to feel like you are taken for granted? I know I do- but if there's one good thing that can come from feeling that way is that it can remind you that maybe- just maybe- there are people in your life who feel like you are not as appreciative of them too. It can give you the reminder that you need to turn it around and make sure you let someone in your life know that you love them, you appreciate them and all that they add to your life.
If you let it, that kick in the pants can give you the motivation that you need to do something good for someone else. It can let you see that there are parts of your life that you need to repair and take steps to get started. It can help you see the blessings all around you, which in turn can diminish the pain and anguish that you are feeling. If there is one thing that living with a pair of chronic illnesses has taught me it is that there is nothing that we can't overcome, and there is no situation in which we cannot find something positive if we just look. Once we start seeing those blessings in our lives and more importantly; appreciating them- then we can enjoy the ride.